A couple of nights ago I was talking to a dear friend about where life has us right now. It was a great little discussion as it always is and my friend said something that has stuck with me ever since.
“you know when I met you, all you did was your job. You had nothing else going on. You ate, drank, and slept Compassion. Nothing else. Now look at you… your life is no longer about just your job but diverse, balanced and healthy”
You know… my friend was right. We unpacked it a little bit more and I realized how unbalanced and how unhealthy life was back then. I was coming to the end of a failed marriage where I escaped the troubles by diving into a job that brought me significance, confidence and results. I slowly got into running which was a help, but for the most part… I was all about my job. Constantly working and thinking that was ok.
One of the great strengths of the team I work on was how we all try to keep each other accountable to traveling less and shutting work off at night and on the weekends. Well… I wasn’t to good at that. But over the last three years, balance has entered the picture.
I can honestly say that today, I have no problem with shutting work email off at night or on the weekends. But because I work in the music industry and shows are happening at night and on weekends, I will glance at emails on occasion just to make sure there are no fires to put out. 99% of the time, it can wait till the next day or Monday.
This conversation came up because we were talking about the different things we have going on in life. For me, it’s triathlons and some outside interests centered around blogging and social networking. It all keeps me very busy, but it’s the kind of busy that is spurring growth for me in every other area.
As I look around at my other coworkers, I’m starting to see where their lives have balance with family and other interests. One coworker coaches AAA basketball and the other serves at his church and has done some investing in real estate. Another coworker is remodeling a house in order to rent it or flip it when the time is right. When I look at these men I realize a very subtly thing. They have lives outside of work.
I probably have more going on in my life than ever before. Even when Big Tent Revival was touring, I never was this busy and yet… it feels balanced. Part of the balance though happens because of planning and being very intentional about what it is I want to accomplish.
Life as I know it comes down to relationships, goals, growth and gaining a deeper understanding of who I am and who I am made to be. Not defined by any one thing but defines by my character and personality.
A healthy life comes from many inputs. It’s not just what you eat or if you exercise, but where you focus time and energy engaging into the process of life.
If you were like me and you work way too much… do yourself a favor. Find a way to take a vacation or a short break. Unplug from life and reset yourself and refresh yourself. Evaluate who is important in your life and what is important in your life. Re-tool a little and you will be amazed at how much more balanced your life will be and how much sweet life will become.